“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
—Mary Oliver
I work with you to heal and deepen your intimate relationships, and to connect with your most authentic self.
Where do you hurt?
- I just can’t reach my spouse anymore… It’s like they don’t care.
- I’m watching my old relationship pattern playing out again — I thought I was on top of this!
- Sex used to be fun, but these days I could take it or leave it.
- Sex hurts, so I grit my teeth and just try to get through. The doctor says there’s nothing wrong.
- I just can’t seem to get rid of the old, damaging messages I learned in childhood about sex and relationships.
- We just keep having the same fight over and over — we don’t know how to stop the madness.
- My partner was unfaithful – I don’t know if we can get through this.
- I’ve been avoiding sex because I feel embarrassed about my inconsistent erections.
- I don’t like when my partner touches me — I’m afraid it’s just going to lead to sex.
- I’ve never had an orgasm.
- How do I have any kind of relationship with my family of origin when they keep treating me so badly?
- My spouse wants to open our marriage, but I’m afraid it will kill our relationship.
- I used to really enjoy sex, but now when I’m intimate with my partner, I often get flashbacks to my childhood abuse. Why is this happening now when it didn’t before?
When our relationships are disconnected, we hurt. When we missed out on a strong foundation for our own confidence, we hurt. When we long for close connection but find it terrifying, we hurt.
My practice focuses on care for relational pain. I specialize in the intersections of couple/partner relationships, sex, and trauma.